When my readers asked me to post something for the pujas, I was clueless. This is such a sensitive part of me, I do not want to share it with the world. In fact, a number of times I felt quite naked having talked about things that I should have kept to myself. But then, I am a writer. That’s my first job. And enumerating my thoughts and feelings does not mean that they are mine alone… they can be yours too. That is why I get so much traffic on this blog.
In fact the other day, someone searched for my name + marital status. Why??? Did he want to marry me? Unfortunately dear, I cannot. Not because I am married for 17 years, that can be handled, but because I have stopped believing in such long-term closure plans anymore. It gives me a sense of claustrophobia and I think two human beings cannot often handle this. It’s not a very scientific system. This marriage system. After being through an “indestructible” marriage (thanks to my rock stable better half) I told my brother: Please don’t get married. I told his fiance: Please don’t get married.
They got married.
I am telling my son everyday: Please don’t get married….. He’s just 15….. Keeping my fingers crossed.
I know, I know a lot of people from the older generation will pounce upon me and quote me instances as to why marriage is important. I know all the reasons and want to forget them. You can quote them if u want…
However, not being married but still keeping to the commitment has a different charm… Not bound by the society, yet keeping the promises makes life so much more interesting. Guys, guys, guys…. 5 years. That is all is needed for a marriage curd to turn sour. Instead live in. Be friends. Have affairs. Have fun. Have a baby. The law permits now. Bring her/him up together without any commitment or guidelines. It’s just one life.
Sorry, couldn’t write anything on the pujas…. this is all that I came up with. :)))